Do y’all remember what I wrote in a old post/Date: 1/21/2010?
Rememer when I made a promise about showing you a certain change .. No?

Let me refresh your mind:

Uhm .. too bad I don’t have a picture of my new body yet, but I won’t leave ya hanging! It’s coming soon! A special before and after-post!

Well here it is!
For those who don’t know .. I just turned 25 on 2/27/2010!
Hmm, I’ve heared it all ..
“You’re a quarter now!; Ooh, you’ll be 30 in JUST 5 years; Quarter of a century is through” blablabla!

Stop it!

I’ll just say .. I’ve been blessed waking up these 25 years, living a life full of lessons and love and now I’m headed to a 100 more! Moving forward, Hallelujah!

This year has brought me so much! Not only did I let go of emotional baggage, but some physical baggage as well!

And to keep the promise I made in januari, my dear sisters
Mellie Mell and Jessy (theheartofjess.blogspot.com) made some birthday pictures of me!

So here it is, the Before and After Frizz:

And a b-day picture:

Yes, I am very proud of what I’ve accomplished! It’s a steppin’stone to a milestone!

Bigger this are coming y’all!

And, oh please, do tell me what you think of the transformation!
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m gonna start nibblin’ on my fruitsnack!

Till nxt writing, bébés!

Mwah, Frizz

Like the other day I was waiting for my tram to come and take me home ..
An oh- so relaxin’ moment to just lettin’ my mind reflect on the day and come to rest!
You just don’t want ANYBODY to distract you from that moment of peace ..
Well, so much for wishful thinking, ’cause something on my right side was totally distracting me ..

A gigantic booty! And not the meaty-kind ..
This one was PUMPED!
No seriously, It looked like a pumped up football!
If you’d try to squeeze it, it would slide outta yo’ fingers!
I kept on looking at the woman with disbelieve and amasement by the outcome. I wondered what the reason was she’d done it in the first place?! Didn’t it feel like carrying and sittin’ on a skippy ball?

But ofcourse, she’s not the only one walking with that paticular new piece.
This happends everyday .. Girls be showin’ and giratin’ something that isn’t even “what they momma gave them”. They just found Dr Illusion to give them somethin’ “brand new” to flant.

But still: Why the sudden change?
Well, I don’t even have to tell ya ..
But for those that need a lil’ help ..

Example #1: In this world, superficiality is all around. The world evolves around looks and status! So when that’s of high priority, the media will make it a even HIGHER priority in all of their products. Now, women love all kinds of media, especially fashion magazines! That’s a fact ..
That’s where we get our latest fashion, lifestyle and career facts from! But it’s not just about those topic. Models are included, too!
And unintentionally, we compare ourself with some of those models ..
And if women see model A looking gorgeous in the hottest new bikini with a firm behind, we, women, walk to the mirror and suddenly look at ours ..
Be honest, you’ll start thinkin’ of 1) the gym or 2) .. Dr Illusion!
Unfortunately, alot of women will visit Dr Illusion after that certain doubt!

As I was surfing on inet, I came across this site:http://www.cosmeticplasticsurgerystatistics.com
On this site the surgical stats are shown per year. The lastest stats of 2008 show that10.2 million surgeries took place!
Meaning 10.2 million people in the USA, alone!!
The top surgical procedures being Breast implants (355,671 thousand) and Liposuction (309,692 thousand).
Oh and another shocker .. the beginning age starts at 16! So what this means is, (young) women dominate the plastic surgical stats with more than 50%!

Honestly, do you really think that you’ll look prettier with a bigger behind, two pumped up girlfriends or anything that can be constructed on your body?

Ok, wait .. In some cases, I can understand the necissity!

Example #2 : Some women are not blessed with two full girlfriends.. Just two buttons ..

And some are blessed with girlfriend that create the “baglady” effect .. Or some have a crooked nose, lil’ to no teeth or any kind of “Extreme Make-over battle”.. If that’s the case, I’d could understand why you’re seeking for help, but still .. But doing it in the name of “beautification”, because of your rooted lack-of-self-esteem problem is a serious problem! And the women that do it are beautiful already! Then they do it ones and get hooked ..

A pity ..

Just because somebody or something told you, you don’t have what it takes, doesn’t mean it’s true! you are YOU and there is no copy of you, Thank God! So that mean your EXTREMELY SPECIAL! Even twins are individuals, eventhough they look alike! You should be proud that there’s one of you walking around this earth! I know I am! I’m unique with all I am and all that is in me!

Like I said in my last post: You are made in Gods image and He thinks you are perfect! No plastic surgeon can change what is inside of you! Who you are in your heart and soul is who you reflect on the outside! Be the best inside, so it can come out and you don’t need to change anything!

I praise God for making me as His likeness, His image, and so are you!

Never, ever let standards of the world change your view of the beautiful you!

– Frizz

Nxt post: The terrible side of how far women go to “look sexy” in the wordly eye

Mwah, Frizz

Oeh .. I’m so upset!
So the other day, I was talking to my dear niece Chanty.
17, beautiful dark skinned girl, with a body to die for! Somehow, our convo’s always go from God to guys, to a mixture of both. This time she was telling me about the kind of guys she diggs, but that those guys are always falling for the SAME KIND OF GIRLS! You know, the kind of girls you see in videos ..

No clue? Pic the visual:
- Curled or sleek hair, (most of the times it’s a weave)
- Yellow, red or brown bone (read: light bright, red undertone and caramel-brown: Black mixed with Hispanic, Euro, Asian etc.)
- Thick or very nicely built (full frontal, small waist, biiiig hips, thighs n booty)
- A pair of babygirl/bedroom eyes (big/small eyes with long lashes)
- And thick candy rose lips

Ok, lemme give you a visual then:

Now, I think this woman is very BEAUTIFUL! I truely do!
But, there a alot of girls/women, that feel they’re being overlooked by men, just ’cause they do NOT look like her or have any of the “qualities” of the notorious list. Living in a society that’s based on superficiality, with video’s that show you how to look, walk, live and have the ” be like me or be nothing” mentality, alot of beautiful girls/women are gettin’ infected by it .. the wrong way.

Because this is an issue that is being overlooked, but so important, I’ll spend some of my precious blogspace on this subject. To keep this post descent (lenght wise), I will post this matter in different parts … I told you it was heavy on my heart!

Example #1 : I know that there are alot of beautiful darkskinned/mocha girls that think they’re underrated (not beautiful), ’cause their fellow black sisters are f.e. not displayed as the singer’s interest in his last video. Producers rather have a girl looking like the one shown in the last picture or at least with some of the features of the list. But these beautiful darkskinned/mocha girls do lead in another part of the video ..

The booty-poppin’ part ..
Yes, it is a fact that alot of darkskinned/mocha ladies, no matter how beautiful, are casted to pop sum .. Girls/women of the same shades feel like they either have to pop or rebuild sum’, in order to be liked by anyone!

I know what you’re thinkin’ .. “Ladies need to stop that nonsence and start loving themselves no matter how they look or what skincolour they have/Didn’t their mama’s teach them anything about selfrespect and selflove?” Believe me, I feel the same way, and there is NOTHING more important than loving yourself! But its still a big thing for them to say “I am beautiful”!
So what I’m about to share now, goes out to ALL WOMEN!! black, white, yellow, green .. All y’all!!

What you shouldn’t do is compare yourself with a model from a video or any media in paticular!! It’s ok to look at magazines for a cute top or new gloss, but don’t shop for the same eyes and thighs! God made you as HIS masterpiece! In HIS likeness! You’re beautiful and perfect just the way you are!!

I’ll tell you, look around or surf @ community sites! Girls/women are really trying to look like those vixens! Same poses, same clothes (only cheaper), same hair .. everything!! They’re even giving themself the vixens last name!! That made me so upset!! I wanted to shake the girl and tell her:

Ok, so what happend to you?? Where did you put yourself? In the fridge? Probably, ’cause you think it’s cool .. Pretending to be someone else! -Frizz

They just have no idea how good it feels to be your individual/original self instead of being a copy of somebody else ..

Nxt time: ” How far women can go to “look sexy” in the worldly eye”

But in the meantime ..
What do you think? Share your thoughts with me!
Let’s debate!!

*Mwah* Frizz

Pains to exchange
For a love that’s forever
Though shattered like a flower
He makes light like a feather ..

Me
His truth, unconditionally
Sad eyes will be suprised
How wonderful it’ll be
To let go
Let life naturally flow
Ergo, let the base
Be directed forevermo’

Dont’t be scared, don’t fret
The Lord will never forget
The tears shedded
On His behalf
He is your better half

All will work out for good
Sometimes
Missunderstood
Like a baby’s babble scrabble
Only asking for food
Though not understood
So perfectly clear
Let Him open the sad eyes
And let the pain dissappear

Trust Him.

Ok, so I’m in this hopelessly romantic-bubble, these past weeks ..

Yeah, a girl has been single for quite a while/ a long time and not to be giving you the ahww-poor-me-impression, I just need to get used to that fact!
Maybe It’s because of the give-a-rose,-buy-me-dinner-and-lets-get-romantic-this-one-time-a-year fest that is coming up.

Valentine’s day grrr ..

Ok, I’m not hatin’, ’cause love IS my middle name,
BUT isn’t it just a lil’ TOO overrated?
Yes, I’ve celebrated it and it wasn’t always pleasant ..
We were still human and even on Valentine’s day,
ex and me could get a little angry! Not everything is perfect, lovey-dovey on V-day ..

Ok, so I had my bad experiences .. but it got me thinking ..

“Shouldn’t everyday be Valentine’s day?”

I agree!

Love, and all it stands for, included!
To me, Love is even the hard times!
Love is sooooo deep! Love is losing, but also gaining ..
It’s everything we want to feel, but scared to hold on to!
Love is amazing, even when it sucks when you get hurt,
but then it heals all ..
It basically does and is everything!

And I love it!!

That’s why I loved that movie yesterday: Valentine’s day!
It wasn’t too overrated and pretty cute ..
It didn’t make you wanna throw up!
And no, I didn’t watched it with somebody of the opposite sex ..

No, just with my girls! And we had FUN!

I actually don’t need a boyfriend to remind me of being loved on or beyond V-day! God already did in:

1 Corin 13

and He shows it to me everyday!

FYI , I’m in love already ..
With God and my family!

With them I’ll celebrate Valentine’s day!

Everyday.

Till nxt writing!

*Mwah* Frizz

I can’t get up no more
’cause the punches get harder
Man I’m almost KO’ed
they push and drive me further

Away
Someday
These pains will go astray
But someday seems so untouchable
another blow, so there I go

I need to lean
I scream, yell
I can’t get up
Just did but fell
Can’t cry no more
Just let me dwell
‘Cause it’s hard to get outta this shell

I never knew I’d fall so deep
in mindsets that don’t make the change
The power that I need is still here
and will never go away

Why won’t I grab it?
Why do I hesitate?
Does it seem unreal
Or a waist of time to hydrate?

I just don’t know how
To take it by the hand
Please, help me Lord, I’m exhausted
Please help me understand ..

This thing called life/Your will for me.

(It’s like) Fresh flower essence coming down my way, and
Summer breeze that will never stop to sway when
The favor of Him is always in my future- present
So I’ll praise my Prince, ’cause He is the only true Legend

I have many ..

No, correction .. God has blessed me with many.
Some I don’t know yet
and some I already manage to train and elborate in life.
And there are two I want to share with you on this blog.

Poetry and photography.

Let us begin with the first one.

Now last week, my brother (no worldly bloodline, but in heavenly Spirit),
asked me for my opinion on a poem he wrote a while back ..

Who me? Yes, me and I was honored!

He calles me the “church poet/lyricist/journalist” after he discovered my passion for writing.
I humbly replied with a giggle and a thank you .. but suddenly thought, ‘It’s been a while since I wrote a poem out of mind .. ‘
My brain screamed a loud ‘YES, it has been!
So I read his poem and cried inside ..
Sir, you truely have a gift (salute).

Now, I’m not going to share HIS poem on MY blog ..
that’s why I told him to create his own!
It’s his stuff! I’ll keep you posted if he got one ..

So we studied them and he shared some more ..
But then I thought ‘he’s only sharing his stuff .. wouldn’t it be an act of descency if i’d share some of mine? But I had nothing new ..
10 min later I wrote – uhum typed – a new poem in my phone (the first, after a year or so) and sent it to him. He replied with a ‘I’m about to throw the berry away! This is too powerful! yell

Me happy, my brain happy and now I want to make you

1. happy
2. sad
3. angry
4. irritated
5. uplifted

with the poems I’ll share with you .. Tell me whatchu think of it!

God gave me this talent, so why put it on the shelf?

Enjoy!

Matthew 25:14:21

*Mwah* Frizz

Frizz sur de la mode

Now, in my tweens (199?), One of my many fashion dreams was wearing that Lisa Bonet-hippie look!

I thought it was a cool x sexy way to dress! But the thing that excited me more: I knew her mother had nothin’ to do with her choice of clothing! What a dream! Unfortunately, my mama had everything to do with my wardrobe! From colour to fabric .. EVERYTHING!

So now, through the years, I’ve developed my own style x taste. And I dig it!

But it wasn’t until last week that I felt like there was something missin’ in my closet …

I was in search of amazing sale items and I started thinking ’bout my childhood dream dress. I always had this wish of owning a hippie flowerdress (ala Lisa B.), with army boots and that long Lisa B. hair .. well for 1) I’m not the weave type of girl, 2) thank God army boots are back again, but 3) I pretty much gave up on the dress ..

Until I googled ..

by ASOS

Thank the Lord it’s back! It’s called the mini flower dress and I’m gonna search high and low to own at least 2! I know what I’m gonna wear this spring/summer! And don’t worry, I’ll make it fly! Watch me!

So what about you? What is you must-have item for this year?

Oh do share!!! (below is your spot)

*Mwah* Frizz

You gotta feel this one!

Everytime I saw this song on MTV, I would “punjab” myself!
Love it. Enjoy.